So I cruised through high school and college being somewhat popular. People liked being seen with me, I had boys chasing after me, sniffing my berry shampooed hair when I wasn't looking. Everyone looked at me and said, "she's kahwin material"
So here's the thing, a few days ago, I started browsing through FB and found a few long lost friends. There more I browsed, the more friends I found, the more I got addicted to kepoh-ing into their pictures and status. So most of my friends who have grown up watching me date and talk about boys and wondered if they'll ever find someone to love and love them back, are all hitched. These are my dorky friends who have probably secretly harbored crushes on pretty boys in school without ever daring to even mention about it. I remember my best friend crying to me in her first year of college, that she still haven't kissed a boy. She's a proud mother of a 1 year old son now.
How did everyone suddenly grow up and how did time pass me by without me realising it? Now don't get me wrong, I don't see it as a competition. It's ust ironic that most of my friends who started dating earlier than me or somewhat around the same time, are either single or not heading down the aisle anytime soon. You would think that the more frogs you kiss, the sooner you'd find your prince charming. Apparently not. Now most of my single ladies are reduced to saying, "the good ones are all either taken, or gay".
While I send out congratulatory messages over FB to long lost friends who have recently tied the knot or received the birth of their first borns, I'm sitting here thinking, what would my life be if I was "less" popular in school and didn't kiss so many frogs. I've been conditioned to believe that "marriage" is over-rated and should not be chased after. And I guess in many ways, I am very comfortable the way I am, attached and unavailable yet not legally belonging to someone else. Perhaps I want to get married someday, but for me, now's not nearly the right time.
So here's a BIG congratulations to all my friends who are getting hitched, and to those who are already expecting the arrival of their firsts or seconds. I cannot be happier that you have found your true love! Congratulations to those who have recently become proud mommies! It's a chapter of life I'm so happy that you get to experience! I am truly genuinely happy for you girls. :)
And to all my single ladies out there, attached or unattached, Just because you are not married yet, it doesn't mean that you have plotted your own downfall ( don't listen to your mothers!). Singlehood is worth celebrating and embrace it with a simple fact, you expect more out of life, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with. :)
And to my soon to be hitched girlfriends out there, stop dissing the unattached or unhitched ones.. You need bridesmaids after all, and we make excellent ones! :)
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