The Big "I DO" Business

Weddings weddings weddings. Not too long ago my friends were inviting me to their big 21st birthday celebrations. Now, wedding invitation cards seem to be flying into my mailbox!! I am privileged to help my friend plan his wedding which will be held on the 1st of march. It's exciting planning everything out. Adrenaline pumping facing the challenges of meeting the lucky couple's expectations. Frustration in not being able to find that certain color of ribbon and energy draining climbing up and down scaffolds setting up props and decorations. It's truly amazing how a centennial old tradition still manages to preserve its novelty, every time. One never says, "ah, im going for a wedding, again," there's always something new to look forward to. OOO's and AHH's to the deco and food and activities planned to celebrate this blessed day are exchanged everytime. No wonder the wedding business is a multibillion dollar industry every year. Even for skeptics who think weddings are overrated and they'l remain celibate, Attending a wedding simply shakes their resolution.
However, the price to have that visioned wedding, let alone a dream wedding is rocketing every darn year. Weddings are expensive affairs and no wonder some just make do with the registrar and forgo the artsy fancy elements. Is it fair that having your dream wedding requires you to save up half your lifetime? Therefore we are suggesting the middle income group and the low income group should simply make do with the minimals because dream weddings are only for the rich and famous or people with FAMA (father and mother association) funds? What happened to the sanctity of weddings. What happened to the once in your lifetime so it has to be perfect? It is simply not fair that such an important rite of passage should hold such a big price tag. In order to have their dream weddings, a few good couples i knew took bank loans to fund this special occasion. Sadly, one couple has not finished repaying their loan even though they are already at a stage where they're paying their divorce lawyer fees.
However, I also wonder sometimes if weddings are really hyped up the way St Valentine's Day has been? The industry is so which that it drills into our minds that if we do not have big weddings, we're falling short of society's expectations. The "follow the jones" attitude is a lifestyle these days. We MUST have what our neighbours do, if not better.
What's my point? I think it's not fair people should have to lower their expectations because it's simply too expensive to have the whim and fancies on their special day. I also think it's not fair that society thinks that if you do have a wedding, it must be equivalent to the grandeur of the rich and famous. What do i urge you to do... Before the rest of you send me your wedding invitations, think hard, and follow your heart. Have it the way both your hearts envisioned it to be. I'm sure as little girls you did not envisioned your wedding to be pulled by golden carriages and having it in a ballroom with 2000 guests serving caviar and oysters. I'm sure all you thought of were flowers, a ring, your prince charming and the kiss of a lifetime!

rainbows from Fay...

Trying this out one last time

This is definitely not my first time attempting to keep a blog running. I've had so many attempts but alas! The lack of perseverance has gotten the better of me. I was surprised that all my old blogs are still up and running despite me forsaking it years ago. Don't the free running websites delete inactive accounts? Guess they believe and perhaps they're right that people may stop for a while, but the habit of blogging is too hard to kick. They will be back someday, just as i have.

I started blogging four years ago. Gosh you do not want to read my juvenile postings as i myself cringed at how immatured, emotional and whiny i was. As much as i hate growing older, i'm sure glad as hell i did somehow mature in a fashionable way throughout the years.

As adolescence hormones have stopped raging and wisdom has "hopefully" crept up on me as age sadly has (well, they do say wisdom comes with age), i hope my new blog will be something concrete i can truly share with anyone who reads it. I hereby pledge to not post "why doesn't he love me" sorts of posts or shameless "i feel unwanted" self pity useless articles.

Happy reading...

rainbows from Fay