My best friend's wedding

Next Sunday is my best friend's wedding. A friend i journeyed through since we were 5. It was not always merry and play for us. We used to pinch hit and scream at each another, but she is the one person i found myself stuck to till now. She is undoubtedly, my best friend. 

While she is going through a rough time now preparing for her wedding and trying hard to endure all the trials and obstacles, and while i am not there physically to comfort her and help her through, i can only wish her my very best and be there for her through the phone. 

Interracial marriages are very common these days. In fact, it is so common that majority of Malaysians come from a stock of mixtures. It is hard to find many families who have had a mono-linage of one race. Well, interracial marriages are sa

id to produce some of the better looking generations in Malaysia! Haha.. 

However, when two strong racial groups come along to agree on ONE big day, there's where the headache comes in. For My bestfriend's case, her husband to be is a chinese from a traditional chinese family and she, herself is from a traditional Indian family. Not only does she have to go through religious issues, but also tradition and culture issues. Her dad wanted to put a "Lord Ganesh Statue" in front of the stage of her chinese wedding. Her mother-in-law-to-be wanted to put up a "Guanyin Statue". Buffet was opted for a Chinese wedding instead of the usual 10 course dinner because of the extensive menu requested by both sides of the folks. There will be a chinese tea ceremony, an Hindu blessing ceremony, "laddus"(indian ghee ball sweets), champagne, Sarees, cheongsams, and many other mixed and match

 traditional practices to soothe the egos of both sides of the folks. What does the bride and groom really want? A simple garden wedding with a small crowd of guests consisting of people who really mattered. Thats the one thing that WILL BE absent from the wedding. 

When a couple decides to take those holy vows, who's really merging? The two individuals or the marriage between two families. As much as parents are extremely excited and happy when their children get married, most of them get carried away being involved in the preparations of the big day. Wedding is suppose to be a joyous occasion, yet research shows that Couples fight more during wedding preparations compared to the whole duration of the dating period. Parents want to impress their friends and family, and many forget to remember the fact that it is NOT their big day, but the big day of their children. 

Sure, they have sacrificed their whole lives for their children, but in my opinion, it does not cut them any slack of making unreasonable demands of the "must-haves" during their children's once in a lifetime biggest moment, especially when it's at the expense of their children's convenience. 

Good luck Rahtee, I will be there on your Big day to celebrate the biggest day of both your lives and i hope i don't end up crying! =)