Why do Men Cheat?

You know that familiar question we all ask our men? " baby do u still find me pretty?" or "am i still hot to you?" or "if a hot girl came on to you, would you be tempted?" The answer is always no. In whatever relationship, in whosoever's relationship, the answer is always "NO".

Learning from previous experiences, the answer "no" doesn't mean jack shit. It's just a response, a nay-say, as word to shut down the uncertainties we women have tumbling all over our brains. The fear that what just happened to the next woman might happen to us.

The No.1 reason why men cheat: Men crave sexual “variety,” according to David Buss, professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating (BasicBooks). That ladies, equivalents to the simple reason; boredom. Sad isn't it?

Why is it always women who worry about their men cheating, and hardly ever the other way around. Maybe because of stereotypes. Men generally cheat more than women. In a survey done, it was shown that, "Approximately 40% of men seek sexual satisfaction outside their relationships, estimates Kat Hertlein, Ph.D., professor of human development at the University of Nevada - Las Vegas and a marriage and family therapist.

That number hasn’t changed much since 1950, when the famous Kinsey sex study found that 50% of U.S. men cheat at some point in their marriages."

So men cheat out of boredom, and women cheat out of vengeance. Both are equally promiscuous, but which is the lesser evil? Does it really matter, because it seems as though it is almost impossible to have a life-standing relationship these days. A friend of mine told me once. A man will cheat, not now maybe, but he will cheat, in some form or another, that day will come. These thoughts have disturbed me for years. And growing older, watching couples i know of fall apart and marriages that are based and maintained by lies and deceptions, it makes me wonder, if marriage vows should be altered to include the phrase " i will not have sexual relationships with another being till death do us part."

Just yesterday, My housemate bumped into a man we both know. A husband of a very beautiful woman, a father of two gorgeous little girls. Just a couple of months ago, we both were amazed by the transformation his wife had gone through. She must have easily shed 10 pounds and looked ravishing, more than ever. And yesterday, My housemate bumped into him with another younger girl in his arms. Variety you say? As i look at all the "datins" and "mrs" in the gym working their asses off to maintain their body, it makes me wonder what is the drive behind this conviction and perseverance. Mine, for now is purely for my own feel good feeling. Will i fall into that category one day? Botox and gym and slimming salons all for the sake of a man who you can't let go because you love him so dearly and you're fighting so hard to provide "variety" for his sexual appetite?

God knows..