Behind Every Successful Man is a Woman

Women seem to be stepping out of the shadows of their men in recent events. For example, i was ironing my clothes while watching the news yesterday and a thought stuck me. Hillary Clinton. When did she take the limelight? Wan Azizah. People are still raving over her, not her husband, after PKR's success in the recent general elections. Fallen political figures have had their wives taken over their roles in the public arena. A strategy? to reclaim their power through a different approach? I wonder what is the true cause behind these women's fame all of a sudden. Is it because their husbands can no longer tug the heartstrings of the public and therefore their wives are sent out to do the job? Afterall, women do empathise better and are therefore more wholesome effective leaders as shown by research. However, during Anwar's and Bill Clinton's reign, their wives were constantly behind their backs, supporting and running errands in regards of their public appearances. Now that their wives have taken over their roles, where are these men? So what is it actually? Women are proving to perform better as leaders? Women are better leaders to bet on because they are better mediators? Or is it just for a simple reason that Women can outshine men if given an opportunity ( in politics per say). Generally, educated and notable political figures are said to marry a woman of equal status quo and intelligence. What about normal laymen? I've heard tons of stories where good educated men would consider a dumb blonde as a perfect mate. They do not appreciate being questioned, after all, the more successful a men, the larger the ego. I guess we can say the same goes for politicians. They have a strategy. While they're at their prime, the wives take the back seat and play the role of a Dumb blonde. When they're losing their hold, the wives come out to save the day. Truth is, women aren't dumb after all. There's no dumb blonde. Even dumb blondes are smart, because they play their cards well and act how their man would prefer them to. Women are good actors when it comes to keeping their man. Soothing their egos for now goes a long way. Politicians or not, truth is, not many successful men can handle their women to appear strong. They should only appear strong in defense of their husband's innocence of commiting an affair or being charged with corruption. But in other matters, sit back and wait till the last minute of their husband's breaking point, and then step out of the shadow to save the day!

In Response to Ophelia's Blog

One of my favorite quick sneak away from work is reading up my friend's blogs. ( it only takes a few minutes so boo you, bite me!) It's interesting because Knowing them for so long, and cohabitating with some of them, it is always nice to read up the things they have to say, knowing that we no longer have the luxury of picking up the phone or chatting over coffee, due to distance and the lack of time. Reading a friend's blog is the best way to keep in touch in a spiritual way....So bless the person who made blogging a hype!

I was reading something Ophelia wrote regarding how she has changed over the years. Though i'd add my bit too... Haha... One thing i thought i'd add was the things i see 20 yr olds doing now that i never did then, or would ever do now.

When i was 20....
1. I wore bell bottoms and slinky tops, clubbing was a weekend ritual
2. I had my clique in college and considered my bunch to be the cool bunch
3. I danced with any tom, dick or Harry at clubs, drank till i dropped off chairs ( cheap ladies
nite liquor)
4. I was 52kgs, and i thought i was quite thin
5. I talked alot, loved meeting new people and making new friends
6. I was still embarassed to reveal to my friends i was not celibate
7. I thought i'd get married at 25 and have a kid by 30
8. I wanted to wear power suits, work in a nice corporate company and be somebody's boss
9. I constantly criticised people sense of style
10. I had no regards for safety and did whatever i wanted to do ( e.g; walking down lonely Jalan Batai at 3am to go to 7-Eleven )

Today....
1. When people tell me they're still celibate, cz they haven't had sex but have done everything else, i feel like choking them
2. I don't club ( arghh the smoke and the Loud music! ), i don't binge drink ( i'd prefer sipping cognac or wine), and i can't dance to save my life anymore
3. I don't like meeting new random people, starting a conversation from scratch is too troublesome, and forcing myself to not analyze the root behind their stupidity and lame conversations is not something i look forward to.
4. I hear people talking in the lrt and instantly pick up if they're still in high school or not...
5. I'm 25 and i'm still far from ready to say "i do"
6. I hung up my power suits neatly in my cupboard, and traded my glamorous job for a job as a social worker.
7. I'm 46kgs, but i think i'm fat
8. Everywhere is going downsouth, boobs, butt, cheeks... triceps....
9. I have matured conversations, regarding work, politics, human rights, theories! (oh gosh)
10. I don't have much friends to hang out with everyday, and i'm liking it
11. I sleep before 12am, and take the train to work
12. I start my sentences with, "During MY time,we never........."

Things young punks do these days, that i'l never in my wildest dreams do....
1. 16 yr olds carrying Gucci and LVs to school and college
2. Use "fuck" as an adjective of every word
3. Have multiple sex partners
4. Have bimbo talks and walk the Bimbo life ( thanks to Paris Hilton)
5. Walk in public Braless ( they'll regret it when they're 25)

$$$ for the Body You Dream of?

Some of us are lucky. Lucky to be born with good genes than govern where that extra calories the mid-day potato chips will go to on their physique. Some lucky ones gain fat on their boobs. Some on their ass. As for me... food has always been a guilty pleasure. Yes i repeat.. "guilty" pleasure.

I'm far from lucky. Being born with the "Murray" genes where calories just find a way to creep up on my waist, upper arms or thighs...Food is a inevitably guilty pleasure. I love eating. I love cream cheese and bagels or even the morning Nasi lemaks sold outside the lrt stations by vendors every morning. But i can only do that once a week. Or i'l bloat up really bad.

People say, just eat healthy and exercise. Well, i do both! Eat healthy in proper proportions and exercise (almost daily since i walk approximately 1km everyday collectively to work). But the perfect body is still far from my vision.

Don't blame me and say I'm paranoid. Being 5'3" and having a reasonably petite frame, a slight bulge shows whenever i indulge in food. I was a whopping 60kgs when i was in school! Now i am 46Kgs but my thunder thighs have not abandoned me.... can you really blame me for not trying hard enough and being paranoid??? Sighhhh....

For some of us... Like myself, eating healthy comes at a price. I never ever stinge on Food. I can pay up till 16 bucks for a morning sandwich but as long as its healthy and full of goodness, i don't mind the price tag it comes with. But yet it's not something i can afford on a daily basis, three meals a day! Gym... Sigh! alas... Gyming is so expensive i cannot afford it. I want to because i love exercising. I love sweating and the adrenaline pumping through my veins but it's an expensive lifestyle. Not to mention it will aid me in getting that body i want..Things are so expensive these days. Of course my pay is considered meagre because of all the other responsibilities living alone in a city costs me... I have to pay rental, phone bills, electricity bills, water bills, insurance bills, "soon to be added to my budget Housing loans" bla bla bla. Can you really blame me for not being able to save?

It's ridiculous how everything necessary in today's world comes with a big price tag. And there we go writing up about how obesity is a trend in our growing youth and how people are diagnosed with heart diseases earlier each year. But for healthy food and exercise which is the main way to a healthy lifestyle is barking madly expensive... I would love to buy everything organic... or have fresh mushrooms instead of canned preservatives ladden mushrooms. The price difference is of course like heaven and earth......
so what was it again about our government's intention of having Malaysians eat and live healthy???

Mane of Glory

I admit i'm a tad bit obssessed about hair. I cannot sit quiet long enough to leave my hair alone. But since i've resolved to growing it out once again... I'm in torment... Literally.....I believe that (tested and proven) one's hair can eminate a new sense of confidence and bring out a whole new person from looks to personality. I'm currently at a state where my hair is neither here nor there. Neither straight nor wavy. Neither short nor long.. neither colored nor natural... It's just a mess!

Everyday i bun up my hair with lil baby hair sticking out and falling all over the place. seriously.... It makes me look very unkept. It also makes me want to shrink into a hole when i'm around people. Argh... i sure hope the fruits of labor will entertain me soon enough, before the wait kills my resolution......Bluehhhhhhh

I missed the Event of the Year!

Sigh.... First i wanted to go to the The St Patrick's Day event at Sunrise. I was all geared up because, well, what's there not to get geared up over! Clowns in green, stout, food, fun, people dressed in quirky ways... It' been agesssss since i attended a party/event/concert/whatever....

And then! i forgot it was also the same day Sunburst Festival was held. I was so torn apart. I've heard lots of forecast reviews on how great this event would be. Viewing the pictures of friends who attended the festival just put a sulk across my face..... I can't believe it.... I didn't go and now i'm not sure if there'll ever be another Sunburst Festival in Malaysia...

Sigh, what happened? Unforeseen circumstances happened that is... I was doing alot of important things this weekend. Taking care of my loved ones who are not in the best condition. And i'm glad i did because i wanted to and it did take half the disappointment of my mind when i watch them recover one by one. What satisfaction!!! And do i regret not going to Sunburst? kind off... Do i regret the circumstances being such that i had to miss it? nope............


Well, I did what i should have and well, hopefully through my optimistic lenses, there'll be another festival sometime soon. Still sulking....... still sulking at all you people who got to go for it... boo you! :P